The topic of today is one that I really love. I didn’t know it was called this when I tackled it but as soon as I read about what it mean, Booom! It just clicked and made me laugh.
So, when I hear people talk about forgiving others and/or “turning the other cheek” It made me border line nauseous. I think that is because of how people use this term of forgiveness.
The image of someone doing something …wrong to you and you say..that’s ok. We can still be friends as if nothing has happened. This is not what the Law of forgiveness is talking about.
Webster says ” to give up resentment of or claim to something given in return, compensation, or retaliation ” so in simple language it is ” to let go of completely, to abandon”
what does this mean, it means to move on with your life. Don’t waste your time, thoughts, efforts holding on to things that have happened in the past.
Bob Proctor says ” You cannot hold bad thoughts in your mind and move in the right direction”
Forgiveness is not for the other person. It is for you. Let go of anything that is causing you to feel bad. You will realize just how much weight is lifted off of your shoulders. How much easier it is to stay stress free.
Holywell says: “If you hold in your mind that someone has wronged you or treated you unjustly, you cannot be free from your wrong doing or injustice so long as you hold that thought in your conscious”
Sometimes, you are the one that is seeking forgiveness or maybe a better way to put it is you are the one that is harboring a guilty conscious.
There is a scientist by the name of Professor Gates who worked in the Physchological Laboratory of Washington D.C. who ran experiments testing the emotions and the reactions of the body (Holliwell, 2015, pg 136). Now think about the amount of tumor, ulcers and cardiac problems that have already been attributed to the amount of stress and guilt that we carry around with us every day…..let it go
If you are someone who needs to clear your conscience, clear it, do not let the fear of the result inhibit you. Fear is your imagination run away with itself, but not in a good way….Think about it. Has anything ever been what you imagined or worse?
[Talk about canoe trip in the alligator lake]
Have people done me wrong, yes. Have i done people wrong, of course. Do I let those people stay in my life because I have forgiven them, absolutely not. Do i expect to stay in others lives. No, but sometimes you do and sometimes you don’t, but I’ve moved on and so have they. Sometime a little nudge is given to get them moving, as well as myself but we move on non the less.
I want to leave you with this quote from Leland Val Van De Wall ” The degree to which a person can grow is directly proportional to the amount of truth he can accept about himself without running away”
Accept yourself, acknowledge that it is the past and let it go. Today is a new day and you are a new you.
Webster Dictionary ( 2017) Forgive retrieved from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/forgive
Holliwell, R. (2004) Working With the Law, 17th edition: Camarillo, Ca: DeVorss & Company
Proctor, B. (2011) The Law of Compensation on retrieved Dec, 3, 2016 from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NFienuvDsnY